Tuesday, November 19, 2013

Life with two

Well hello there.

Yes, yes I am still alive. Some day it feels like just barely but alive all the same. Right now a glimpse into my world and you would think you had gone on a field trip to the zoo. My house looks like it was hit by a tornado, and really I guess it has. A three foot tall windstorm by the name of Hunter. Luckily at this moment both kids are asleep. Haddie in her pack and play, on her belly, against the reccomendations of pediatricians everywhere. The only way I can get her to nap. It also means I have to check on her every five minutes to keep my mommy heart from racing. Hunter is in his room, which is about to make it's transistion to big boy room. My heart is cracking a little just thinking about it.

Which brings me to the whole point of the story. Our lives have changed by leaps and bounds in he past four weeks since Hadley's birth. That's right. My baby is one month old today. The thing that I notice the most, is that it is so fast. The pace has gone up considerably since she got here. I find myself grasping at the moments. In a world where it is so easy to be worried about what is coming next, I am trying so hard to hold onto "right now" before it is gone.

With number two I am trying to do things different. Take more pictures. Record more milestones. It is hard though, because she is number two. & that means that number one is somewhere tearing something up, but making memories of his own! How do I love them both as much as I want to? At the end of the day I just snuggle them both and hope they know that their Momma thinks they hung the moon and stars. When it's all said and done I have faith that no matter what happens in the hustle and bustle of everyday life, that Brock and I are doing right by our babies.

 Number two also means that I have become a little lax about a few things. I am not nearly as uptight with a newborn now as I was with Hunter. I nurse when I need to and the days of hiding out in a room somewhere are long gone. I can do almost anything with one arm, because the other is usually supporiting the littlest and don't mention sleep because it just doesn't happen around here. Hadley is a cat napper by day and has to slleep with Momma at night. I worried for a few days, asking all my friends for suggestions and now I am just doing what I need to do to get us all fed, rested, and happy. If it means my girl needs her Momma at night for awhile, then she gets it. We will cross all bridges when necessary. When you add another baby to the mix, you really learn to pick your battles.

All things considered we are so blessed and we know it. We are happy, healthy, and we have these two beautiful and wonderful children that feel too good to be true.

Can it get any simpler?

Here we are living in a house that keeps us warm. We have each other and while we have our bad days, we are so crazy in love still. We have two kids who are healthy and there is nothing more important than that. We have a God that showers us daily with these blessings and I think that's all that can ever be asked for. My heart is full, and happy. Two is perfect. Two is crazy and wild and fast but so, so wonderful.



Monday, August 5, 2013

My Sweet Hadley

Hadley Joy,

This morning I realized I haven't written you, like I wrote your brother. My next thought was your Daddy. I wanted to tell you just how lucky you are. He worked all day yesterday. We missed him greatly but enjoyed the evening together. You, me, and Hunter. Then he got home sometime during the night and he wrapped us up in his arms and we fell asleep. This morning, as I am barely awake I feel Daddy pull back the covers, kiss you and tell you "I love you little girl." He does this, without fail, every morning before he leaves for work and every night before bed. Most mornings he excitedly tells me how you kicked him all night, and he is okay with that. You just don't know how much you are loved. You were hoped for, wished for, and we were blessed with the knowledge that you were indeed a part of our lives in February. I was so excited. I couldn't wait to tell your Daddy. When it sunk it that we were going to be parents to two beautiful children I just was overjoyed. From then on out I was planning. I was very excited to find out what you were. We had names picked out and I will admit, I guarded my heart and told myself I was having a boy. When they confirmed that you were a girl I was beside myself! I practically danced out of the office. A boy and a girl, what could be better? Honestly, nothing in my opinion. Daddy and I decided on your name. Hadley just because we both love it, and Joy after your great grandmother Joyce. I started planning and waiting on all of those milestones that would solidify that you were indeed growing, and all mine. You began moving and I could feel it very soon. Much sooner than with your brother. It was such an amazing feeling, I forgot how wonderful! && now, at 29 weeks I feel so close to you. Sometimes I am in awe at how lucky I am. We think about you so much. What you will look like, will you be like Hunter? Last Saturday we got to see you in an ultrasound. You smiled at us. We watched as your little cheek went up and you just grinned, right there in my tummy. How amazing that our Creator put you there, piece by piece, and just for us! I cannot wait to hold you. To examine all your little features and talk about who you look like. Daddy says my chin, and I think you have Daddy's lips. We will see little girl. Haddie, I love you more than words can say. You will never know the depth of it. 11 short weeks till you are in our arms. We can't wait.

-Mommy

Friday, August 2, 2013

28 weeks

Oh goodness, how did I forget to post for THREE weeks? Almost 4?

Oh wait a second, I have a wild and crazy 16 month old, and the baby brain is full on crazy right now.  I forgive me...

So much is going on right now! Let me start with a check up and then I will elaborate.

How far along: 29 weeks on Monday. yeah.
Total weight gain/loss: Back down another 1lb for a total of 10 lbs lost.
Maternity clothes: You know it, I am officially back in Brock's discarded tee's as well because none of mine fit.
Stretch Marks:Still using Momma Bee by Burts Bee oil.
Sleep: Yes, thanks to about 5 pillows, two fans and a crazy electric bill.
Best Moment this week: Keeping my sugar down just by diet alone! Score!
Miss anything: Sleeping on my belly!
Movement:So much! Baby girl is moving and shaking in there. It is starting to get a little uncomfortable, and I feel VERY round. I wonder if she is facing my back like she is supposed to?
Food Cravings: Actually they have tapered off. Nothing strange that I can remember really.
Anything make you sick or queasy: Not since that awful two hour glucose test!
                                          Have you started to show yet: I am asked daily if I am "popping" soon.
Labor Signs: Braxton Hicks pretty frequent, however thankfully not regular.
Belly Button in or out: In still!
Wedding Rings on or off: Weird thing, my rings are actually LOOSE! I take them off because I am afraid of losing them!
Happy or Moody most of the time: Happy :)
Looking forward to: We have a 3D ultrasound tomorrow that I cannot wait for! I can't wait to see if she look like her brother!

Okay, so as for the sugar references. I did fail my first test, and then after a nerve wracking week I found that I failed the two hour as well. They made me an appointment with the specialist (Who I love! We are so lucky with the team we have behind us!) and I saw him Monday. He assured me that my VBAC plans were still intact as far as he is concerned. Then I met with the dietitian and she went over our plan. Basically I am now on a pretty strict diet of 6 meals a day with specific requirements for each meal. I also have to check my sugar four times a day and keep a log. If I can keep my sugars down (which I am so far!) then things should go well for us. 

I was terrified of that needle prick. Seriously terrified. Brock had to do it the first time and I still cried like a baby. Then, sure enough it was just no big deal. I do it now no problem. Sometimes I prick, and nothing comes out and I have to do it again and then I get frustrated but all in all it just isn't too bad!

So that is that.
 
Hadley is still doing really well. I feel lucky to have had such great pregnancies. All things considered. We are attending our Bradley classes regularly and I am starting to feel so empowered by the choices we have made and the ones we are going to make. I am at a point where I am not trying to please anyone anymore. This is OUR life, OUR baby, and OUR birth and whatever choices we make are ours to live with. Ultimately we will do nothing that endangers our little girl. We want very badly (Brock and I, both) to experience this in the most natural way possible. He is 100% on my side, and so are the people we have chosen to surround us in this journey and that is all that matters at this point! So there!
 
Everything else is just icing on the cake. The room, her adorable clothes. The bows. Which I may or may not have filled a large jar with by now. Maybe. Maybe not.
 
It is all just such a fun and exciting journey for us, and for our little boy, soon to be big brother!

I think I might do a littler nursery post next week! It is looking adorable in there. Everything I ever wanted!

:)
 
 

Monday, July 8, 2013

Hello, Summer!

Boy it is HOT around here!

I don't know whose idea it was to plan this pregnancy around the summer (oh wait, was that me?) but bad plan! Next go around, it's a spring baby all the way.

In all seriousness I couldn't be more pleased with how things are flying by. It is already been five weeks since my last update and it shocks me when I realize how close we are to meeting our baby girl.

What's like been like around here?

Most days (when the air is at a frigid 69 degrees, and I have had enough popsicles to keep me and Bug cool) I feel pretty good and chances are good that I won't be a mad woman by the time Brock comes home. I am energized for most of the day, and sleep pretty good at night.

I am not really nesting. Some days I start cleaning the kitchen or go to find something in the pantry and am consumed with the need to clean said area from top to bottom, but I am not generally in that nesting stage yet. Basically, Brock hasn't found me on the ladder cleaning the ceiling fans like last time. It will come. I do spend a lot of time in her nursery, planning and organizing. I love going through her clothes and hanging them. I have even been known to take them all out of the closet, arrange them by outfit and go through her bows trying to make sure I have enough. (Lord, thank you again for a baby girl!)

As far as life outside of baby #2, we are good! Brock is working a lot lately which is good, but it means one thing I hate, rain. These storms have been relentless. The humidity is doing terrible things to my hair and skin but it means more work, and more work means more money, and more money means more bows. ;)

Hunter is really growing and changing these days. He is walking, running, climbing and generally making it look like we beat him with all of his bumps and bruises. The past couple days Brock and I have noticed a change in him, though, he is definitely getting much more sure of his steps. It makes for a fun but challenging day! He is good at amusing himself f for the mos part, but loves to bring me a book and crawl in my lap and still enjoys a little cuddle time every now and then. I am savoring the way he sometimes just comes running for me, throwing those sweet little arms around my neck. He loves to give kisses, and I am enjoying every single one. I know there will come a day I have to hog tie him to give his Momma a kiss! Verbally he is growing each and every day. He learns a new word almost every day. Book, ball, cat, dog, Papa, Papaw, Uh Oh, Whoa!, juice, and bye bye are just a few that he has learned and actually repeated on more than one occasion! I am thrilled when he finally starts repeating something. I talk to the little guy all day. The proof is in the pudding. He now takes my phone, puts it up to his ear says some jumbled sort of "hello?" and paces the floor talking gibberish. Wonder where he learned that from?

The farm is flourishing. We now are getting about 5-7 eggs a day as well as tomatoes, peppers, squash, and beans. The blackberry bushes are full and I think we have all spent some time out there picking. I personally have already made a double batch of cobbler, an three half pint jars of jelly. I think I heard something about a blackberry pie as well, but I wasn't party to that particular deliciousness. My sister in law and I have frozen beans and squash already, and after a trip to the state farmers market I have also made peach pepper jelly, peach butter, and bagged and frozen about 12 bags of silver queen corn. I think there is nothing cooler than eating something you helped raise, grow, pick, or make.

All in all its been a great Summer, and we are so thrilled that at the end of it all we get to meet our bay girl! Hadley, Momma can't wait!

Here is the standard check up!

How far along: 25 weeks, hard to believe!
Total weight gain/loss: Gained about 2 lbs from what I lost.
Maternity clothes: I live in my maternity shorts from Target, as well as the Liz Lange maternity tanks! Too hot for anything else except a maxi dress here and there!
Stretch Marks:Still using Momma Bee by Burts Bee oil.
Sleep: Sleeping better, with the help of about 5 pillows.
Best Moment this week: Brock feeling her move, and seeing it for the first time.
Miss anything: Sleeping on my belly!
Movement: All the time. She is so much more active than her brother. Unlike him, she is a Daddy's girl already and kicks when he talks to her or touches her. With Hunter I would put Brock's hand on my belly and he would cease all movement immediately. lol
Food Cravings:Still sweet tea. Brunswick stew? I have had to have it about 4 times. Also cheese quesadillas from Taco Bell. Yum!
Anything make you sick or queasy: Had a terrible incident with cleaning up baby puke the other day. Thank God for my Momma!
                                          Have you started to show yet: Oh yes, it is out there and very round. No one believe I am only 25 weeks!
Labor Signs: Braxton Hicks more than I would like!
Belly Button in or out: In, but starting to pop a little. It never did with Hunter so we will so.
Wedding Rings on or off: Both, good and bad days as.
Happy or Moody most of the time: Happy :)
Looking forward to: Seeing baby girl again on the 31st!

Wednesday, June 19, 2013

Proverbs 31: Take Two

So last night we are leafing through my Bradley class workbook and I jokingly say how nice the exercise looks that deals with tensing up my entire body, and letting my coach massage the tension away. & Brock balks. & I get upset.

"You never want to participate."

"Why can we only do nice things when there is a kick-back for you?"

& other things, that lead to. 

"I don't mind giving you a massage." 

"I'll just do it."

which leads me to say things like,

"I don't want you to mind doing it."

What if I didn't mind being his wife? What if it wasn't something I did joyfully?

Anyways, this argument had been days in the making. We had spent the days before giving each other the silent treatment. We had just had a long talk over dinner about our expectations and here we are fighting again. The kind where I am on the couch, and we are yelling, YELLING about nothing. 

However, the root of the problem is that neither of us feel cherished or respected in this relationship. for me personally, I feel like a lot of things. None of them being his wife, his partner & best friend. I feel like Hunter's momma, and some one's best friend, and some one's sister but not my husbands wife. & neither of us feel like we put the other first.

& well, we don't. Not at all. We are both very selfish human beings. I spend my days thinking the most important thing is my son and growing daughter. He spends his days thinking he can put in his forty hours and call it a week. We love each other, we really do. That never sways for either of us. It is unconditional. The vow we made before God we both take seriously. I have never looked elsewhere in our marriage, and neither has he, I know that without a doubt. But do we put one another first? No.

Tonight at bible study, I think we both realized why. I had emailed the girls (all married, all with kids) and ask they just cover our marriage in prayer and explained the issues. Come to find out, every single couple was having these same issues. One of us had linked us all to this awesome blog, and another of us suggested we look deeper into Proverbs 31. We looked at how the verses don't necessarily translate to today's time and circumstances. Do I need to get up before the sun to bake bread and feed my servant girls? No. If I had servant girls, I guess I would feed them (kidding!) but I don't. Nor is it important for me to start weaving our bed linens and dyeing our clothes in the wee hours of the morning. The meat of the issue though, is still very relevant. Do I still need to cover my husband in prayer daily, becoming someone he is proud to have as his wife? Yes! Do I need to make myself presentable and spend my day in fear of our Creator? Yes! & most importantly do I need to spend time with the Lord, preparing myself for my day, and consequently that of my husband and children! Absolutely! 

We talked tonight about how important it is to put our priorities in line. It's such a simple process when you think about it! Wake up every morning and wait for it, put God first! Not the house work, not the kids, not the husband. What? Marriage works without putting your spouse first? Yes, yes it does! Just like everything else in life, if we spend time every day clothing ourselves in God's armor and growing in the Lord then everything else will fall in line. Naturally, if I have my life in line, and my heart where it should be, then my husband will feel like he is the only priority I have. So will my children! How amazing would that be. & if Brock does the same, I too will feel loved and cherished and special. Because I will be!

It's such a wake up call. I know we both have so much work to do, but two years into this I think we have plenty of time. Especially now that we both see that the faults in our marriage do not lie within the other person, but rather are things we should be changing about ourselves. I cannot wait to examine my flaws, and start changing them. Knowing he is doing the same, and preparing ourselves to be the best possible mates & parents!

Friday, June 7, 2013

Meeting our Support Team!

So yesterday was a big day for us! Due to some insurance changes we missed our 16 week appointment for Hadley. Then we switches practices and so that was another stressor for me. Yesterday was our first appointment with the amazing staff at See Baby Atlanta, and Intown Midwifery. 

Brock took off since both offices are located in Atlanta and I am a complete moron when it comes to anything "ATL". We made it to our first appointment about 30 minutes early, and after a couple insurance issues that made me cry (go figure!) we went back to see the ultrasound tech. This appointment was focusing on the 20 week anatomy scan. The whole process took about 20-25 minutes and it was wonderful. Our sweet tech was so verbal about what we were seeing, and very personable. She confirmed that Hadley was still indeed, a girl, and had grown no extra parts! Great news!

As we were leaving, they asked us to wait, because Dr. Bootstaylor wanted to see us. Me being who I am, immediately thought something was wrong. Why else would he want to see us? Come to find out he just wanted to meet us! It was so great to have him tell me that everything would be okay, and he totally validated our decision to switch practices, as well as have the VBAC. He gave us a run down of our scan, letting us know everything looked great. Then he told us a projected weight, and so if I keep up at the rate I am going, we are looking at maybe 7lbs 7oz. Smaller than her brother, but a good, healthy weight!

Then it was over to Intown for our appointment there. We found it pretty easily, even if we did park in the wrong deck and have to walk a country mile. We met with Anjli who was just as lovely as I imagined she would be. She spent more time just talking to us, than every appointment combined with my pregnancy with Hunter. It was so nice to have someone be genuinely interested in my previous story and just as curious about what I expected from this pregnancy and birth. Brock and I both left feeling so empowered and supported!

Add that all to the fact we have the most dedicated and passionate doula/friend to go through all of this with us and we are so thrilled about how this will all happen! I am by no means against any form of birth, but I just want the birth experience I have this time, be the one I was meant to have. I feel like that because of the amazing staff at these two practices I will have just that!

So, we leave tomorrow for the beach and I have just an overwhelming sense of peace about everything at the halfway point. I can enjoy my vacation! Bring on the sunshine!

Tuesday, June 4, 2013

20 Weeks

Here goes...
 
How far along: 20 Weeks, Halfway baby girl!
Total weight gain/loss: Still down about 18, but baby girl is growing and my appetite is back most days so I should catch back up soon
Maternity clothes: All the old favorites. Leggings, maternity shorts from Motherhood that I live in. Most of my old tops and some new ones! Also broke down and bought the super soft maternity tanks from Target! They are fabulous!
Stretch Marks: Unfortunately yes, I hear they are genetic. Thanks Mom! Bought some Momma Oil by Burt's Bees I am giving a shot, as well as Palmer's Stretch mark cream.
Sleep: Sleeping much better at night. About 4:00 everyday I am ready for a good nap! Some days I get one, some days I don't!
Best Moment this week: I am going to guess it will be our anatomy scan on Thursday! Can't wait to see her sweet face!
Miss anything: Sleeping on my belly!
Movement: Like crazy lately. Moving up closer to my belly button. Had my first kick that made me stop and go "woah!" the other day!
Food Cravings:Still sweet tea. Also fried chicken randomly the other day, and watermelon. I could eat it daily.
Anything make you sick or queasy: Water, but only if I drink it first thing in the morning. Which I always do.
Have you started to show yet: There is no hiding this big bump! Nice and round though so I am happy about that!
Labor Signs: Braxton Hicks every so often.
Belly Button in or out: In, but starting to pop a little. It never did with Hunter so we will so.
Wedding Rings on or off: On, loose actually.
Happy or Moody most of the time: Happy :)
Looking forward to: Our appts on Thursday with our new doctors and then our first family beach trip this weekend!